This article on CNN.com kind of ties into yesterday’s post, Is Single Motherhood Too Glorified and let’s me know that there is beginning to be a shift in feminist thinking. I really don’t to get into my thoughts on the whole feminist machine, but I will say that it’s made like very difficult for so many women.
I admit that I am happier with a man in my life who loves and cherishes me. I feel complete and whole if not plumper (In know that’s not a word). But much of my depression and sad feelings come because I have been lonely. The kids are great but I am happier when I have attention and am being loved.
So I think being single is overrated and I want to be in relationship. There I said it! It’s all nice and everything to make my own money, have my own place, and have the exclusive say about what happens to my kids, but it’s just not fun.... at all! I am currently in talks with the love of my life. We are not together for various reasons but we realize that we do love each other and just do better together.
If asked which state of relationship I’d rather be in it would be marriage and committed relationship versus singleness any day. But until that time, I will find joy in this journey until my change comes.
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Being single is definitely overrated. I believe that's why the blog, Black and Married with Kids, along with their new DVD, Happily Ever After: A Positive Image of Black Marriage, have been such great hits, even amongst singles. I'm not a feminist, but I've certainly fallen into that I'm Every Woman trap. I used to say that I didn't date because I had kids to raise. Now that my kids are grown, what's my excuse?
I few months ago I asked women online what made them strong, black women? Most of the women in their 20s and early-30s said doing everything on their own made them strong. On the other hand, women who were mid- to late-30s, 40s and 50s said that they were strong because they had someone there walking alongside them.
In many ways, we are conditioned to do it alone. In my family, women pride themselves on SAYING that they don't need a man. But I've never seen those women without one. And after my divorce, I started chanting that same nonsense. Now I find myself WANTING a man, and that's something that was hard for me to admit.
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